Of Men And Women The Eternal Question

 Of Men And Women The Eternal Question

The other day while I was driving out of the club an elderly gentleman waived and asked me for a lift to the nearest taxi point.
While driving to the point during the course of conversation he revealed that his wife had gone to US to be with the children as a grandson was born and he had come from Delhi to stay in the senior citizen Complex where he has a room.
After the gentleman got off the car it set me thinking. Do men lose their utility as they grow  older?
Is that what they are scared of as they move towards retirement, that now what will they do because the skills that they had learnt will come to an end with the job.
Is that the secret fear of insecurity.
With a little more thinking and basis of my discussions with a lot of older friends I found that a man by gender is largely a monochrome personality.
And by monochrome I mean even if he is a Renaissance man of lot of skills he still does not have the ability by nature to be able to contribute to the society in more than 1 ways.
Even in the process of raising a family he may be a successful personality in his profession and may have achieved Heights but his contribution to family largely (and by largely I mean percentage wise when we speak of data) , his contribution rests by way of his monetary input or giving the financial stability. This financial support or stability indeed is important and without which not many things can happen and by the virtue of driving that point home a number of times does he really contribute to the making of his family?
Does is really find time for his family?
Historically even if he has found time for his family what were the skills by way of which over the period of Thousand Years he has been able to enhance the process of evolution.
In a very male-dominated way, we always say the early man- man discovered fire- man made the wheel- man developed from Hunter to agrarian animal etc.
Even in a history books we always see the picture of a man doing everything the woman is shown somewhere in the backdrop.
What were the skills that man imparted to his progeny over so many thousands of years. Were those skills imparted by man alone and were not in the domain of the women?
More often than not and in terms of actual generalization when a person sits down he always remembers his mother and her contribution in the enhancement of his evolved and developed life. He always remembers the compassion and patience that his mother had imparted and shown during his upbringing and not the manliness that was preached by his father.
So if gentleness, compassion and love were the domain of the women then what has been that of man?
If only fending for food was the main point of his life then does he not become less useful as he grows old.
Is that not why a woman finds herself more useful to the society even to the last day of her life. So isn't the women still imparting the skills that she had learnt from nature AND because of her nature to teach the children and their children's children, the natural skills just like that of a elephant  or a bird or a tigress teaching their offsprings to stand, walk and hunt.
Now doesn't the question once again  arise that in such a case weren't the skills of food also imparted by the woman.
And then again I ask what were those which were imparted by man?

पुरुष बुनियादी तौर पर बांझ होता है|
न की शारीरिक रूप से अपितु मानस से भी .
जब एक पुरुष ने करुणा हुए प्रेम व मैत्री की बात की तो उसे बुद्ध , महावीर और क्राइस्ट कह दिया। 
जबकि नारी तो अनंत काल  से  करुणा और प्रेम अपने अंदर समाये हुए थी। 
    न् कि वह स्वयं संतान की उत्पत्ति के लिए अनुपयुक्त है अपितु  वह अधिकांशत संतान के लिए कुछ भी रचनात्मक योगदान करने में असमर्थ होता है|
अपनी जिस संतान की उत्पत्ति के लिए वह जीवन भर  अपने लहू की दुहाई देता रहता, उस संतान की उत्पत्ति में भी उसके शरीर का सबसे सूक्ष्म cell ही प्रयुक्त होता है जबकि बालक के जन्म में नारी  के शरीर का सबसे बड़ा cell प्रकृति प्रयुक्त करती है।
 

केवल अपने रोजगार और उसके प्रति हासिल किए हुए  कौशल को वह उपलब्धि मानता है, और परिवार को जीवनपार्जन के लिए दी धनराशि अपना योगदान मानकर सन्तोष कर लेता है।
इसमें उसकी कोई गलती नहीं है क्योंकि ऐसा उसे समाज और संसार ने समझाया है|
किंतु ऊपर अंग्रेजी में लिखी घटना ने जो मुझे समझने पर मजबूर किया कि एक सफल पुरुष के जीवन का, जीवन भर की उपलब्धियों का अस्तित्व कुछ ही पलों में सिमट जाता है।
यह वास्तव में एक सोचने वाला विषय है।
और मेरे साथ ही अन्य पुरुषों के लिए यह भी  महसूस करने का वक्त है कि उन्हें अपने नौकरी के अलावा भी कुछ हुनर सीखने पड़ेंगे यदि वे चाहते हैं कि समय के साथ में चल पाए और समाज में अपनी जरूरत बनाए रखें।
केवल नाईं की या चाय की दुकान पर बैठकर राष्ट्रीय और अंतरराष्ट्रीय मुद्दों पर चर्चा करना उनके हुनर में नहीं गिना जा सकता।